As graduation and my departure for Europe grow closer and closer, I think about the one maybe two days I will get to see my boyfriend before I leave for several months.
Now I am faced with the task of figuring out how to make those last few minutes of time that I get to spend with him... last me for 2 and half months while we are away from each other.
How do we make minutes count with the ones we love? I have compiled a list of DOs and DONTs when you only have a short time with someone.
DOs
1. Hugs/Kisses/Hand holding (Physical touch is something that is so important to human interaction, not talking about heavy PDA, but small touches and pats on the back let people know you are there and care)
2. Listen and Respond (Don't worry about anything else you have to be doing. Be present and engage in conversation)
3. Go do something fun! (Activities that get you out of the house and moving are always great! Laughter and Smiles are the goal here)
DONTs
1. Pick petty fights. (Spend the time enjoying each others company, don't waste it arguing)
2. Just watch Netflix and lay in bed. (I know it is easy to bunker down and not do anything, but you will remember it all much more if you getting to talk and play with each other instead of watching a computer screen.)
3. Talk about how long you are going to be apart. (That is a problem for your future self, enjoy the moment while it is here.)
Thursday, April 16, 2015
Thursday, April 9, 2015
Long Distance Love
Have you ever been parted from the one you love for a long period of time? Do you live in different states? countries? If you have ever been in a long distance relationship then you know how hard it is to maintain and nourish a healthy relationship with hundreds of miles between you.
I am currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of three years (3 yr anniversary in 2 days!), and although it has only been for a year it has still taken a toll on both of us. There have been times where we didn't know if it was going to work out between us, simply because not being able to have a physical relationship with the person you love or simply not seeing them in person is torture.
Of course technology has helped long distance couples by providing us with tools such as Facetime and Skype, which allow you too see your significant other, but we don't yet have the capabilities to recreate the sensation of touching another person.
My advice for anyone who is in a relationship such as this is to learn more about the way you and your partner give and receive love. In fact there is a free test you can take called the 5 Languages of Love that will let you see how you most easily recognize and reciprocate love. This will help you figure out how to show your partner, in terms and actions they can understand, how much you love and care of them.
Give it a try. Nothing to lose, everything to gain.
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
I am currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of three years (3 yr anniversary in 2 days!), and although it has only been for a year it has still taken a toll on both of us. There have been times where we didn't know if it was going to work out between us, simply because not being able to have a physical relationship with the person you love or simply not seeing them in person is torture.
Of course technology has helped long distance couples by providing us with tools such as Facetime and Skype, which allow you too see your significant other, but we don't yet have the capabilities to recreate the sensation of touching another person.
My advice for anyone who is in a relationship such as this is to learn more about the way you and your partner give and receive love. In fact there is a free test you can take called the 5 Languages of Love that will let you see how you most easily recognize and reciprocate love. This will help you figure out how to show your partner, in terms and actions they can understand, how much you love and care of them.
Give it a try. Nothing to lose, everything to gain.
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
Friday, April 3, 2015
Saying Goodbye to Friends
Friends come and go, because we as people change and grow. As my graduation from college quickly approaches I fear the looming thought of saying goodbye to the friends that have made these past four years so wonderful.
Why must we endure the ripping apart of friendships because of geography?! I hate that I will only be able to see my friends a few times over a matter of years because of jobs, money, and time. I am terrified of losing my friends, the people that have supported, fueled, and loved me.
Some people say that the friends you make in college will be the ones you will still have at the end of your life. And I have to say, I agree. The friends I have made here, helped me to really find and love myself. Where did you meet your best friends? Have you ever had the painful task of saying goodbye?
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