Touchy subject for most people. If you have ever been cheated on or cheated with someone then you know the roller coaster of emotions that can come along when dealing with infidelity. As someone who has cheated (I am not proud of that fact) and has been cheated on, I would like to talk about what I consider cheating and get your feedback as well. Are there different kinds of cheating? Are there ever situations where cheating is okay? Does cheating on your partner mean your relationship is over?
First, is there a difference in cheating on a boyfriend/girlfriend verses a husband/wife? I believe there is. Not that it is not cheating when it is on a boyfriend or girlfriend, but that the level of importance and consequences are much lower, verses cheating on someone that you are married to. When marriage is a part of the equation you are dealing with children, money, and life paths. If the urge to cheat on your wife or husband is a real feeling you have, then having an honest and open conversation about your thoughts and feelings is something that must occur if you are to continue to have a life together. If they love you they will be willing to change things and compromise to make it work.
Some people will say that cheating is never okay. Some say that monogamy was never meant to be in nature. Humans are physical creatures that crave attention and need contact with others, what happens when you are in a long distance relationship and are never with the person you love? Does this mean that you are to never experience the warm touch of another person? Or that you are to suffer and wait? Physical touch has always been how I have communicated my love for others. Not just romantic love, but friendship as well. Because of this, I have never found physical touch to be a bad or regrettable action.
Does the heart feel what is does not see? Is honesty the most important part of the relationship? Can you be physically involved with someone while loving someone else? I would like to hear your thoughts on the issue!
I am completely against cheating in all regards. I saw it firsthand ruin a family and would never wish that upon someone else. If you don't have the discipline to not cheat, then you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place.
ReplyDeleteI also saw cheating, firsthand, ruin my own parents relationship causing their divorce and the end of my family as I knew it. I would not wish it on anyone, I just know that life happens and people make mistakes. Forgiveness and understanding is what is needed to get through situations like that, but only if you want it to work. You have to be willing to work at the relationship to make it work. I was just curious to see if anyone had any other opinions on the matter of love and loss. Thanks for commenting.
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